I wrote a letter of great value to someone I deeply care about. It was to a guy whose character really caught my eye. This letter was full of the beauty I saw in him. It was rich with depth. It was written throughout months of prayer, and crafted to convey all of the characteristics of Jesus I saw in his character. It was the most vulnerable thing I had ever written to anyone. I was sharing my heart with him.  Showing him what I saw in him before he even thought twice about me. I decided to give it to him, to encourage and strengthen him no matter what the outcome was. Because if anything, it would be an encouragement.  It would be a reminder to him of who he is, and what someone saw in him. It was laced in love. I sent this letter straight to a heart.

After he received the letter, I began to see a change in the way he acted towards me. There was a shift in our typically very open, easy relationship. He began to hold things in.

As I continued to share more of my heart with him, it felt as though he was placing his in hiding. Our conversations could not get to a place of depth. I could sense him struggling when we were together. He was acting confident and cool, like things were good, but something was making him nervous to fully be himself.

Why was he hiding the man I knew he was, and the man that I have seen since I knew him…the one I wrote about? After he knew how I felt about him and what I saw in him, shouldn’t he be more open to me now, let his guard down and feel even more free around me? Did he read the letter? Had he not seen that I have always been here?

I sat quiet to hear God speak into this, because I could not figure out what had gone wrong. In the silence, after asking God what was distancing him, the Lord enlightened my eyes to recognize and understand something that I had known deeply all along.  I had felt it within myself before, that sense of not feeling worthy of being fully known and fully loved. That desire to hide from those who love us the most.

After a lot of confusion, which lead to a frank discussion, He shared with me that if I knew of his past and what he was coming from, then I would not look at him the same. I might not love him the same. He was afraid that he would fail me. My words were too kind, too good. He would surely let me down.

This was fear was holding back his vulnerability. This letter that was sent to a heart, got stuck in the doubt of a human mind. The heart is what we humans consider the center of a person’s thoughts and emotions, especially that of love and compassion. The heart is the wholeness of a human, it is not just emotions. The heart is the center of man’s character. When I wrote this letter to the guy, I did not write it on his appearance, his accomplishments or his past. It was not meant for the head. I wrote it about his character and how I see Jesus inside of him, the things that dwell and overflow from his heart that had spoken to mine. I wrote it as a highlight of who he truly is. I wrote it about the things that make him who he was called to be. I wrote to his purpose. I wrote it through the lens of love, which must and can only be received with an open, fearless heart.

“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” – Timothy Keller

So many of us settle for being loved instead of known, but there is so much that we are missing out on when we stay in our head rather than open up our heart.


A similar situation happened to me once.

A letter was written to my heart. A letter I received that was of the highest value, from someone who cared about me deeply. It was from someone who saw me fully and knew me for my innermost being. It was full of the beauty that He saw in me and that was inside of me.

It was written and rooted as He was crafting me. It was the most vulnerable thing I have ever read or received. He gave me a piece of His heart and gifts that I couldn’t even comprehend. Telling me what he thought about me, before I even thought twice about Him. It was full of encouragement and things to strengthen me, to make me fearless and free. It was written as a reminder of who I am and what someone sees in me. It was laced in love. He sent it straight to my heart.

As a child, I loved the letter. I read the letter every day and I honored the letter. But as soon as I slipped up, I began reading the letter with the doubt of a human mind, rather than my heart. I replaced the letter with words crafted by the wounds I heard from the world, and the voices I allowed in. I felt so unworthy of the letter, so I ran. I hid. I locked the door to vulnerability.

Brene Brown says, ““Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

When we hide, we run into shame, unworthiness and fear. While I was in hiding, I did not share my emotions with people. I wore a mask. I held my tears in. If anyone knew what I was running from, they would not see me the same. I would let them down. That was what I thought, what was in my head.

During my days of running, I happened to run right into the arms of someone that changed my whole way of thinking. I broke. Not only did I tell her I was running, I told her what I was running from, and she looked at me and said these words, “I see a pure heart.” In that moment, I realized so much. I realized these three things about the letter I had crafted, from the voices of the world that had been swirling around in my head.

What you did is not who you are, nor who you were called to be.

What they said about you was never who you were.

How they made you feel was never what you were meant to carry.

I went back and read the original letter I was given. The letter was from Abba Father. It was a letter to his beloved daughter. Written before I was even born, while he was crafting me and planning every detail of me. I read it with my heart, and I was slain by the understanding of His unconditional love for me, His boundless grace that was offered. I read it once again fearlessly and with a humble heart, and received the love and the gift that was freely given. While knowing every single part of me, every mistake, every failure, every triumph and everything I would overcome. What I found this time was:

A peace that surpasses all understanding.

A grace that is sufficient for me.

Mercy that is new every day.

Identity that is unshakable.

A sound of freedom.

A path to destiny.

Compassion that does not fail.

A love that never ceases.

Undeserved. Unearned. Yet given through a letter to my heart, that I pray I never again allow to get stuck in my head.

I ask you, therefore, not to be discouraged because of my sufferings for you, which are your glory. For this reason, I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God

Ephesians 4:13-19

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  • Annika Damkot says:

    This was so moving! Exactly what I needed on this Valentine’s Day!

  • Harley Rote says:

    Once again I am left in tears. I love reading these blogs. They have all helped me so much with the things I need to work on in my life. Thank you so much, Sadie. God bless. You are my #1 inspiration. ??

  • Rebecca Schrimsher says:

    Thank you Sadie for speaking these truths that God has given you. You are truly comforting others with the comfort you have been given. My teenage daughters read your posts and books, and it is such an encouragement to them to keep going and trusting their Heavenly Father who loves them unconditionally! I am praying God will bless you and keep helping you to be a warrior for His army.

  • Sabriah Hill says:

    The reminded me of a conversation I had with my mom a few days ago. Although we may see ourselves in such a negative way. Although we may see our mistakes and our flaws as being apart of who we are. Although we may see our physical features as and image of who we are… None of these examples is who God sees us as. He sees us as the love that is in our heart. The pureness and vulnerability of our true beings. He is understanding of our past and sin that is brought our way. He forgives us for every mistake. God sees us as our POTENTIALS not our mistakes.

  • Helen Jack says:

    As i sit here, i have tears. This is what i needed to read..see and hear today ????? thank you

  • SHELBY KIGGANS says:

    wow this is my second day this week reading a blog and still reminded of my worth and how much god loves me. i saw "No fear in love." on my watch and wanted to read this so bad, so here i am sitting in my desk at school. feeling so proud and bonded of gods love for me when im really supposed to be taking notes but god just drawed my attention to this. i am SO AFRAID of people loving me. i needed tis!! thank you for this Sadie, i am so excited to attend church tonight and recieve your new fearless book. i am 12 almost 13 i live in knoxville tn and happy God showers me with compassion, love, power and self confindence.

  • Morgan Robinson says:

    Wow Sadie!!! Whenever you post something like this, God leads me to it to read, as an encouragement!! Thank you for speaking from your heart❤️

  • Krislyn Elmore says:

    This was SO needed today. I had that small bit of shame that had begun growing into fear. (A feeling that I don’t DESERVE the love of GOD or even those around me who I love.) I had been trying to understand how I felt, and this just hit the nail on the head. Your post has given me a renewed sense of peace that feels like my chains of bondage were just broken all over again, and such a heavy weight was lifted. You are SUCH an inspiration to me. Sisters in Christ picking each other up like this and being real, and open with each other, taking off the masks and picking up the cross together is really what the world needs. MUCH LOVE ❤️

  • Tiffany Olson says:

    Wow. Well done. This was great.❤️

  • KT Boehm says:

    Wow. I loved this! It really shows what I think we all go through. The struggle. The struggle to continue to do what is right and never forget where and who we came from. This world has a way of drowning out what we know to be true and filling us with hopeless doubts and fear that we were never meant to have. Thank you for sharing this from your heart Sadie! God bless you ???

  • Kate Aaronson says:

    I absolutely love this. God loves us UNCONDITIONALLY:)

  • Whitnee Sand says:

    Wow, Sadie!! Absolutely, beyond words, BEAUTIFUL!! The love God has for us is beyond our comprehension, because before we did anything to try to earn His love, it was already freely given to us, in the most unhindered and relentless way. Many, MANY of us struggle to accept it, because we view ourselves as unlovable. But Jesus came for the unlovable. He came to show them love. May our hearts that are prone to run to get away from this love, be turned around, in the name of JESUS, to chase HARD after it, without fear. When we do that, that’s when we find the most freedom!

  • sarah brady says:

    You speak life and encouragement Sadie! This is BEAUTIFUL!!

  • Kayla Doyle says:

    Sadie, this touched my heart and spoke directly to the struggles I am facing. You have a way with words and I can see God working through you in your daily life. Thank you for sharing:)

  • Kimmy Say says:

    I’m amazed at how well this speaks to my heart and the fact that I can relate in every detail (rarely happens to me).

    I can feel God is with you Sadie. You are a true inspiration!
    You have wisdom from God.

    Thank you for writing this post! <3

  • Hannah Rumbles says:

    Preach it girl! This spoke to more people than you realized I think. It is such a good reminder to y’all that you are loved and forgiven, NO MATTER WHAT.

  • Brittany Viebrock says:

    Wow. Just- wow. Tears are flowing from my eyes, and down my face. That was so perfectly written. So perfectly straight to the heart. There’s this guy in my life that I myself am starting to open up with, to share my vulnerabilities, to show my weaknesses with, and my strengths. Yet– he’s hiding as well as the guy in your life. I’m starting to wonder if this was a mistake. I’ve liked him since I first laid eyes on him. Which was aka 1st grade. My call on this earth is to be a missionary for the Lord, and a youth leader. I have a passion of helping people. So I try to help him as much as I can. As often as I can as well. I talk to him daily. I always want to know how his spiritual life is, and if there is any doubt. I want him to open up.

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