The Day I Asked For Help

The Day I Asked For Help

10.08.2016: The Day I Asked for Help

I remember the weather that day, it was rainy and there was a weird haze in the air that seemed to linger long into the afternoon. I kind of liked it because it matched the state of my mood. I wasn’t feeling very sunshine and roses. I was 488 miles from home, working on an entertainment tour, and I trying to hold myself together the best I could.

That day — 10.08.2016, I found myself sitting with my two best friends on a grimy, carpeted floor in an old theater in Indianapolis, Indiana. Liz and Olivia sat next to me and for the twelve hundredth time they expressed their love and concern for me in regards to my chaotic lifestyle and excessive use of dangerous eating disorder behaviors. Time after time they, and a few other friends, had voiced their concerns to me and recommended I get more serious help than I was getting — but I declined them each time.

10.08.2016 was different though. 

To be honest, I don’t know what changed that day. I guess I was exhausted from keeping up with a lifestyle built on secrets and behaviors that weren’t serving me well. Whatever it was, it was the day I finally admitted I needed help. I stopped running. I finally surrendered.

The following week, I stepped into a treatment facility and began to experience God transform my life.

It’s hard to admit we need help, isn’t it? Admitting that we need help means that we can’t do it on our own. It means that we aren’t strong enough. It means that we have surrendered to own shortcomings and have to admit that we aren’t strong enough for the task at hand.

The beauty of being a believer of Jesus is that we were never meant to be strong enough, brave enough, independent enough, or meant to fix ourselves. Being a believer of Jesus welcomes us to admit that we are not enough, but that Jesus is sufficient for us. 

It’s National Eating Disorder Awareness Week (NEDA WEEK) and this is a week where I always pause and think about my own ED journey. I look back and see the ways that God has used what was once the worst season of my life to give Him glory. I promise, if you saw the depths of my thought patterns and behaviors in that season and you could see what God has done in me, you would only point to Jesus too. 

Asking for help begins first by surrendering to Jesus. It begins with a heart shift from “I can do this”, to “He can do this”.  I will never regret turning towards Him, acknowledging my weakness, and allowing Him to heal me. I will never regret coming out of darkness and into the light. I will never regret walking out of isolation and into community.

Was it hard? Yes.

Was it worth it? Yes. 

This week Sadie launched her new book LIVE, and one of my favorite quotes is this:

“Remember, to live is to remain alive and to reside. When we try to remain, and reside in things that fade away, we are contradicting the action of living.”

For a season of my life I resided in the wrong things. I resided in the idea that I was unlovable and that if I could just change my body, I would find true love and happiness. I had built my life on things that would never satisfy and that would fade away. I was not living the full, abundant life that God desired for me.

Perhaps these words are ringing true for the circumstances of your own life today. You don’t need me to remind you that, “The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy.” 

You have felt him silently devouring you on the inside from the moment you woke up this morning.

Because of my own journey with ED, I would be remiss if I didn’t take a moment to write to my sisters and friends out there who might need a little encouragement in this area — encouragement to ASK FOR HELP! 

Asking for help is not admitting that we are weak —  it’s acknowledging that HE is strong and that He is the only way to healing. It’s hard to ask for help, it’s hard to humble ourselves. But it was never meant to be about our strength anyway!

This is my bold and straightforward plea to you as my sisters and friends: reach out for help today if you need it! Reach out to a friend, a trusted mentor, a family member. You will not regret it. You will never regret surrendering your weakness in exchange for His strength. 

Perhaps 2.27.20 is the day you surrender your life to Jesus. 

Perhaps 2.27.20 is the day that you raise your hand and ask for help. 

Perhaps 2.27.20 is the day you truly start to LIVE.

Friend, if you are ready to make today THE day to start your journey to finding freedom, we have a safe place for you to take that step.

Mercy Multiplied is residential counseling program helps young women ages 13-32 break free from life controlling issues and situations, including anxiety, depression, sexual abuseeating disorders, self-harm, addictions, unplanned pregnancy, and sex trafficking. To find out more about their residency program or to speak with someone, click the link below. 

Steph Vandermolen is a member of the Live Original Team. She loves watching hockey, drinking coffee on chilly days, snuggling her goldendoodle Brinkley, and knows too many random facts about Iceland.

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LIVE BOOK: From Know To Realize

LIVE BOOK: From Know To Realize

Hi there! Sadie, here. I have waited for this day for months and it is finally here… LIVE releases today! I wanted to get some of the words in your hands asap (just incase you can’t go get your copy until later today or tomorrow!). This is one of my favorite chapters and hope it speaks to you right where you are at today. I love this chapter so much so that I am kicking off the LIVE Workshop with this chapter! Full of additional content, playlists created just for you, guided prayer, and more, you can join today for FREE with your purchase of the book!

To find out all the info, visit our page HERE and kickstart your journey to truly living!

Now, enjoy this chapter from my book!

I think that because we know certain bible stories so well, we sometimes do not realize how life changing they are. When we realize that they are not only stories but pictures of what can be real for us, it will change the way we see our lives.

That’s why I started this book with a retelling of Jesus’ story of the prodigal son from the gospel of Luke. So many of us know this story, but we may fail to realize the power in it.

To know something means “to have information in your mind,” while to realize something means “to understand a situation, some- times suddenly” or “to achieve something you were hoping for.” Knowing something is quite different from realizing it. When I shared the story of the prodigal son in the women’s prison, I watched them realize that there is something for them to fulfill in life. I saw it reshape their perspective of who God is as a loving Father and saw hope begin to rise in that room of women living behind bars.

I personalized this story in the last chapter, but it’s important to see it as the Bible portrays it, so let’s look at that now.

You may have picked up this book having known your whole life that there is a God and that He is your Father, yet you have lived with the mentality that you are alone, afraid, and missing true value and quality in your life. Maybe you have not realized all that this story offers you and that your rea- son to keep living is that you have a purpose to fulfill. Or maybe you have never believed in God and have never read Scripture before. Maybe you have never thought much about life at all. But as your eyes wander across these words of life, you are embarking on an exciting journey of get- ting to know something and then having the full realization of how incredible it is. These are the words Jesus spoke:

There was a man who had two sons. The younger one said to his father, “Father, give me my share of the estate.” So he divided his property between them.

Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.

When he came to his senses, he said, “How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.” So he got up and went to his father.

But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.

The son said to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.”

But the father said to his servants, “Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.” So they began to celebrate. (Luke 15:11–24)

In this story we see the prodigal son move from knowing to realizing. Actually, he realized something he already knew: his father had a house and servants who had food to spare when he was on the verge of losing his life (Luke 15:17).

Remember, to live is to remain and to reside. When we try to remain and reside in things that fade away, we are contradicting the action of living.

Sometimes when we’re trying to live our lives fully, we go wrong by turning to quick, temporary highs. We try to satisfy ourselves through things that will leave us high and dry instead of simply filling our lives with the promises of God, which are guaranteed. We try to fill the empty spaces in our hearts, the gaps in our lives. The expression “fill the gaps” means “to add to what is needed to something to make it complete” or “to serve temporarily.” To say that a gap needs filling is to say that from the beginning something is missing, but I’m telling you, if you’ve given your life to God, you already have all you need to fill your heart and soul; you just have to realize it. To fill a gap, you have to add something to it so that there is enough, but to fulfill something, you simply need to step into its reality.

To the prodigal son, filling the gap meant prostitutes and partying. What has filling the gaps meant for you? Has it looked like these:

  • Diet pills to make you feel beautiful?
  • Sleeping around to make you feel loved?
  • Editing your pictures or sending inappropriate photos to make your body look good enough to be seen or liked?
  • Pornography to make you feel satisfied?
  • Addiction to make you feel numb?

If you are involved in these activities, have you found that you cannot stop because the rush is the only thing that keeps you going? Have you discovered that they always end in pain, fear, emptiness, and feelings of worthlessness? If I’m describing you, I want to tell you this: you are not worthless, but those things are worth so much less than who you are.

  • You are already loved just as you are.
  • You are already enough just as you are.
  • You are already seen just as you are.
  • You are already known just as you are.


  • God is love.
  • God is enough.
  • God created you, formed you, and is with you for His satisfaction just because you are His.

This is your reality—not because of what you have done or what you will do but simply because of who you are and where you belong. It’s time to get back the fullness of your life.

The minute the prodigal son stepped into reality is the moment he was met with the most overwhelming realization of his life’s worth. Though we will never have a full perspective of what God will do with our lives on this side of heaven, we get glimpses of His immense love for us in hearing Jesus tell this story of the prodigal son and fully grasping the love of the Father. First Corinthians 2:9 tells us, “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him” (nlt).

It’s time to realize who your Father is. You might be thinking, though, Sadie, I feel like I am eating with the pigs. I’m the girl throwing my life away. How do I get back home from here? I’ll offer you one tidbit of advice that will carry you through this book and through life. It’s only four words, so don’t miss it:

Turn in His direction.

The turning point is where everything changes. There is a path of death and a path of life. So turn in His direction, toward life.

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Made For Relationships

Made For Relationships

Did you know that you are made to be in relationships? The desire you have to know and be known by someone else makes you completely human. The Bible says we are made in the image of God and being made like Him, we long for close, intimate relationships with people. There are so many times that we forget that Jesus was so very human. One of my favorite human things about Him was how much He loved His friends.

Relationships are what make life sweet. They often make everything better, funnier, and easier to bear. Being alone was never the plan. So why are healthy friendships so rare and hard to find? Why, in this modern day culture of connection to everyone all the time, are we suffering from a loneliness epidemic? I’m convinced it’s because the enemy of this world knows the power of friendship.

David and Jonathan were closer than brothers. Mary and Elizabeth were best friends in their crazy circumstances. Jesus and John were the closest of all the disciples. These are just a few Biblical examples that portray intimacy in friendship. We are designed to be close to someone. But it’s not always that easy, is it?

As we get older, life gets more complicated. Our friend selection process becomes so broad. It isn’t limited to your school class or your ball team or your built-in sisterhood. Stepping out of our comfort zones as we grow up often means leaving behind relationships that have carried us through our childhood and teenage years. Becoming an adult can sometimes leave you at a complete loss on how to make, much less keep close friends.

So, here are a few ways to fight for friendship in your life and in your community.

First, Proverbs 18:24 tells us that if you want friends, show yourself friendly. Growing up in the same church my whole life, my family took approximately one million casserole dishes to families who had babies. They taught the young married Sunday school class and therefore, someone was always getting a second helping of our supper. Stay with me! I promise this has to do with making friends! I followed this model into my marriage and always brought food to my girlfriends when they had babies. Then, I moved away and had a baby in a state where I knew no one and had no friends. Guys, I got no casseroles, AND I WAS SO SAD. Trust me, you do not want to see a weepy, postpartum, food deprived momma. It’s ugly! I felt like I had been cheated out of my casserole inheritance.

The next time I got pregnant, I was convinced I was going to get mine. I thought of the principle of sowing and reaping and went to work. I started bringing dinner to every pregnant person I could find. I met a complete stranger at Target, got her info, and BROUGHT HER A FROZEN SPAGHETTI. Not on my watch was a woman going to have a baby without a meal to defrost. I was counting on reaping an intentional investment. I promise this is true. By the time I had my baby, a small group at a local church adopted my family and I had dinner for four weeks straight. GOD IS A GOD WHO MEASURES WHAT YOU SOW. Sow friendship. Be intentional with putting yourself out there. If you know someone that you always watch from a distance, but would like to get to know, ask them for a coffee-meet-up. Go to lunch with a stranger. (Safe ones!)  Imagine the story you will tell on how you met your new friend if it happens to work out. What do you have to lose besides the loneliness? You have to make connections and do the work of getting to know someone. You will reap a beautiful harvest that may take some time. But, you will get more than you bargained for.

Second, don’t feel ashamed to desire close connection to one person. We are especially made to be close to a few. Jesus was friends with all the disciples, but He only fished with a few and He only asked one to take care of his mom after He left earth. We should all be kind. We should all be aware that the goal is not to hurt others by exclusivity. But if you feel connected in a unique way to one, that’s ok. Our hearts are fragile, beautiful things. Giving it away to many is like giving pearls to pigs. The bible has also said that confession of sins in relationships can heal us. That shouldn’t be to a group. It should be to a trusted one. God has set up intimate connection with a friend to be a source of love that replicates His heart toward you. Fight for your closeness. It’s not selfish. It’s stewarding a sweet gift.

Lastly, learn to reconcile. We are so prone to leave when things get hard but what if we learn the gift of deciding to stay? Just a few years ago, I went through a weird season with one of my closest friends. I can’t really tell you what happened that cause our distance, but it was something cold. I wanted to cut the loss and move on, but my friend made a decision to fight for our friendship and I’m so glad she did. She came to me and asked what the offense was between us and we talked, quite uncomfortably, through it. I hate conflict and because of that, the conversation was truly difficult. We knew it would take time to get back to the joy filled, fun nature of our relationship. So, we made a commitment to stay in it. We set a time that we would get together weekly. At first, my wounded soul wanted to run the other way, but I knew she would be at Chick-fil-A at 7:00 am every Wednesday morning. It cost me my pride and some sleep to fully reconcile our relationship. Today, we are closer than we have ever been.

There are, for sure, relationships to walk away from. You should never stay in something that is abusive or repeatedly selfish. But, if there is good at the heart of it, if Jesus is somewhere in the middle, give it a chance to heal. Reconciliation is one of the most beautiful things we can offer to the world. If you want to look back at your life and see a harvest of really sweet friendships, reconciliation is a tool you must learn to use.

You are made to love each other. You are right in your desire to be loved in return.  Be extravagant in your hope to find a friend. You will see the fruit of your labor. If nothing else, your future pregnant self will thank you for the casseroles!

Callie Pirtle is a wife to Ben, mom of 4, avid loud talker, real touchy feely, and a big time fan of loving people!
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Following Jesus in the Unknown

Following Jesus in the Unknown

When most people hear 2020, they think, “It’s the year of vision baby”. That’s what I first thought of when I started thinking 2020, and that’s what my husband thought, too.

Let me tell you, Christian loves him some vision. Our first phone call we ever had, were getting to know each other and asking all those random questions, like:

“How do you like your coffee?”

“When did you know Jesus?”

“What’s your enneagram number?”

THEN, Christian surprised me by asking, “Do you have 20/20 vision?” and I said, “Yeah I actually do have 20/20 vision, that’s kind of random…” and he responds with, “Oh that’s cool, I actually have 20/15 vision.”

Fast forward to the end of 2019, as a classic Christian Millennial, Christian and I were sitting in the Chick-fil-A drive through talking about our word for the year. I looked over at Christian and said, “Babe we really need a good word for the year because last year they were so challenging and powerful.” Then Christian looked over at me and said, “I am really excited about this one” and to no one’s surprise he said, “I’m going with vision, it’s 2020 baby.”

Now I have a little bit of my dad’s personality in me where I am a challenger in some situations. I am sitting there, trying to let my husband have his word and be excited about it, but I’m thinking “Ok, I just need to give a little push back.” So I say to him, “Look, vision is great, I love it, I hope for vision too, but let me just ask you this. Does that word really challenge you? You’ve been telling me all about the vision that God’s given you, we’ve been talking about vision we have together, so do you really feel like in 2020, you need more vision?” Christian responds, “You’re right, let me think about it a little bit longer.”

Another week goes by and now were at Passion Conference, and he looks at me and says, “Babe I got my word! It’s faith! What I realized is that you were right. We have a lot of vision, and now what I think we really need is faith for the vision.”

Now that’s a word! Faith for the vision.

Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone, and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.

Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear.

But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”

“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”

“Come,” he said.

Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”

Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”

And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.” Matthew 14:22-32 (NIV)

When I read this passage of Jesus walking on water, I realized that what actually started as a vision problem from the disciples, turned into a faith problem. They thought Jesus was a ghost because they couldn’t really see, and it was nighttime.

But that is not what Jesus challenged them with. He said, “You of little faith.”

You see, we can come into 2020 with vision. We could have so much vision, but if we don’t have faith, nothing happens. If we don’t have obedience, nothing comes of it. We could have so much more vision than we did in 2019, but still the same outcome if we don’t start walking.

We have to walk into the vision. We have to get out of the boat.

As for us, none of us have perfect vision. None of us have perfect eyesight.

When I think about that and as I started looking up the definition of vision, I noticed a definition that I thought was powerful. It says that vision is, “a mental image of what the future will be or could be.”

I think that “could be” is an important phrase there. Yes, it COULD BE that God is going to give you this amazing vision, but you’re going to have to have faith for it to be truly great. You’re going to have to practice obedience and discipline for it to be developed. You are going to need confidence in WHO God is and WHAT he is going to do in order for that vision to happen. It’s what COULD BE.

2 Corinthians 2:5 says, “we walk by faith and not by sight”. Now that doesn’t mean it’s not scary, but it does mean we will need dependency on God.

I think about that moment with the disciples on the boat, and what really convicted me as I read was that everyone in the boat saw the same thing. It was nighttime for everyone, it was windy for everyone, the waves were big for everyone, but one of them walked on water that night, even though all of them had the same opportunity.

You see, in 2020 we could all be really excited about vision, we could all be hearing the same words and having the same vision, yet only some of us walk on water.

Why was it different for Peter that night? I think it has to do with the conversation Peter and Jesus had right after Jesus said, “Don’t be afraid.”

Peter said to Jesus, “Lord, if it is you, command me to me to come to you on the water.” I think this was such an important statement.

I think back to the things that I ask of Jesus. Had that been me on that boat, seeing something blurry out there wondering if it’s Jesus, I feel like what I would have said would have been, “Hey Jesus, come a little closer so I can see that it’s you. If I see that it’s you, then I’ll walk out to you”

Peter didn’t say that. He said, “if it is you, command me to come to you” Yes, it’s dark. Yes, it’s windy. Yes, it doesn’t make sense. But Peter knew if he heard his voice, he was going to go. God is inviting Peter into a moment and he didn’t want to miss it.

We have to pay attention to His voice, even when we can’t see it clearly.

Psalm 19:105 says, “Your word is a lamp unto my feet.”

Psalm 19 says, “Your commandment is enlightening to my eye.”

We need the faith to trust that his word is our vision in times that we cannot see clearly.

You might be thinking, “Well, Sadie, I don’t have good vision, I don’t have much inspiration, and I don’t really have a word.”

But I am not talking right now about an individual specific word. I am talking about THE Word being your vision.

The Bible is a lamp unto your feet and a light unto your path. These commandments are enlightening to the eye, and every single person, just like the people in that boat, we have the same opportunity to read those words. But the difference is going to be for the people who believe these words and take Him at his word and walk out of the boat to TRUST him on the water.

Verse 30 says, “But when he (Peter) saw the wind, he began to sink and cry out”

Now I relate to that part so much. Because it was actually the moment that he really got the vision that he began to panic.

I feel like a lot of us can relate to that. We pray for vision, get the vision, and then we start to see what’s really happening and think, “Wow that is wayyy bigger than who I am.” That happens to me all the time.

Even when we see it, we can’t fully comprehend it. Because what we really have to know when we’re walking into something with God is that even though we might be able to see a little bit, his ways are higher than our ways, his thoughts are higher than our thoughts, and he is going to do exceedingly and abundantly more than we could ever dream of.

He is so much bigger. So, we might see the moment, but we can’t fully comprehend the moment because it’s something He can only do IN the moment.

As I write this, I think about my dyslexia. When I was younger, the teacher told my mom I was struggling in school, so I thought I must have an eyesight problem. So, I went to the doctor to get my eyes tested and I was frustrated because I could see everything just fine. When I was reading, I could see everything clearly, I just couldn’t comprehend it very well.

Years later I took a dyslexia test and my family likes to joke that it’s the only test I have ever gotten a 100% on. Dyslexia isn’t an eyesight or vision problem, it’s the way that my brain forms and processes the words. So how did I go through school? How am I able to read the bible?

Well, I learn how to remember the sound of the word. I don’t trust in my dyslexia to help me speak; I trust in my knowledge of the word. Sometimes we’re going to see it clearly, but we can’t comprehend it very well. But we know the character of who He is and we know the faithfulness of the word.

There were so many people in the bible that saw the vision very clear but couldn’t comprehend it, yet they trusted him at his word.

Think about Noah. He didn’t see a thing but started building an ark.

Joshua. He saw a huge wall but walked around it 7 times.

Sarah and Abraham. Saw their age but stepped out of their tent.

Moses. Saw an inadequate man who was not good at speaking, but he heard his name being called from a burning bush and went back.

Peter. He saw the impossible but heard the invitation and he walked on water.

They didn’t see it clearly, they couldn’t always comprehend it, but they obeyed his word because they recognized his voice.

In order for us to do this, we need to be familiar with his voice. If we want to start following the direction of the word, we have to start trusting the word. In order to trust it, we need to have confidence in it, and in order to have confidence, we have to know it and be in relationship with it.

We are always waiting for that last bit of clarity. If only he would come a little closer to the boat, if only I could see it a little clearer. But we have to trust beyond the clarity and beyond the vision, we need to trust the word before we have the full picture of what it’s going to look like.

If I would have known the full picture of my life, I probably wouldn’t have started walking. But it’s when I walk with him, these miraculous things happen and come to life.

What’s your word for the year? I would love to know! Comment below or on my Instagram @legitsadierob and @liveoriginal

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What’s That You Say?

What’s That You Say?

You all have shown so much excitement over my book, “LIVE”, coming out in TWENTY ONE DAYS, that I wanted to share one of my favorite chapters from the book! This is so you don’t have to wait twenty one days for encouragement that your life is valuable, seen, and worth living. If you want my book in your hands come Feb. 25, pre-order it now!

One time when Christian and I were dating, we went out for a walk, which we love to do, but we found ourselves in an argument. I was telling him something I wished that he would have remembered to do, and his response was, “I suck.” When those words came out of his mouth, I got so upset. I had shared with him before that it really makes me sad when he speaks negative things over himself. Well, this conversation just kept going downhill and ended with me saying, “That is it. You walk that way. I’m walking this way.” As I turned to walk away, Christian said, “You said you would never walk away.” As I type this, I see how dramatic we were both being, but thinking back on this story, I cannot help but question why Christian and I both said and did things that neither of us truly meant or believed.

I remember hearing a cheer at a football game that started with a group of people yelling something for another group to act out; the other group yelled in response, “What’s that you say?” and then the first group repeated what they said and proceeded to do that action.

“What’s that you say?” is a great question. Being challenged about what we say is helpful because it makes us think about whether we are confident in the words we speak. Sometimes we say things we don’t really mean. Stopping to think about whether we would repeat them can cause us to examine what’s in our hearts and make sure our words align with it, and then make sure our words and our heart align with our actions.


So I want to ask you today, “What’s that you say?” I mean, what are you talking about—to yourself and to others? What kinds of actions are your words sparking? Are they bringing life or death? Are you even confident in what you are saying?
Now I want to offer you a visual, so to speak, of what the words of life and the words of death look like:

The words of life empower. The words of death destroy.

The words of life encourage. The words of death cause people to lose heart.

The words of life affirm. The words of death tear down.

The words of life give hope. The words of death cause despair.

The words of life are confident. The words of death are powerless.

The words of life are full of hope for the future. The words of death replay the pain of the past.

But wait. There’s more. Let’s go a little deeper. Just as a tree has roots that run deep underground, the words you speak have a root system too. You can look at a tree and see if it’s healthy or not by looking at what it produces. If it’s leafy and green and full of good fruit, you can bet it has a strong root system. If it’s dry and brown, its roots aren’t nourishing it as they should. Likewise, you can figure out what your root system is by the fruit of your lips—the words you say (Hebrews 13:15). Let’s look at some common roots of life and death.

The words of life are rooted in a place of security. The words of death are rooted in a place of jealousy.

The words of life are rooted in knowing you’re loved. The words of death come from feeling unwanted.

The words of life are rooted in feeling content. The words of death come from never being satisfied.

The words of life are rooted in being confident in who God made you to be. The words of death come from striving to do more to find your worth.

The words of life are rooted in knowing you are accepted just the way you are. The words of death come from feeling rejection.

The words of life are rooted in peace. The words of death come from fear and anxiety.

The words of life are rooted in a positive attitude. The words of death come from a negative outlook.

The words of life are rooted in caring about others. The words of death come from focusing on yourself.

It’s important to look at what your words are rooted in so you can be confident in knowing how they impact you and how they affect others.



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